Whoever said "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" couldn't be more far from the truth!
One thing my parents ALWAYS told us concerning their personal relationship was that they never ever called each other any name. Wether in anger or even while joking. Stupid, dumb, retard, retarded.... Any sort of word like that was NEVER used in my house growing up. They had
too much respect for each other to call one another any rude name.
Now that I'm grown up and married my husband and I have taken this approach in our own relationship. I think MAYBE both of us have slipped up towards the beginning of our marriage but immediately apologized.
You may think to yourself, what's the big deal? Especially if your just playing around. Like if your spouse does something funny/ditsy and you jokingly say haha you're stupid! For my husband and I (which is also what we've learned from my parents) is that it's just a level of respect. You would never want to make your spouse feel less than.
This has also carried over into all my relationships, family, friends. The moment you "jokingly" call someone a name could possibly be the moment your friend or spouse or family member is going through something that you just don't know about and that name could really hurt their feelings.
So next time you're with somebody you love and you catch yourself calling them a name in anger or for fun, ask yourself, is what I just said to my loved one something that's going to make them feel BETTER about themselves or worse? I always want people to feel encouraged and better about themselves once their done hanging out with me. :)
Just a thought.
Until next time